Have you ever thought, I’m sweeping too much of who I am under the rug so that other people will like me or continue to like me? As a people pleaser through and through, you want to be loved, to be appreciated, to be needed. But at what cost? Join me as I sit down with motivational speaker, author and Live Out Loud founder Brooke Thomas.
In this episode, Brooke explains that in order to heal past wounds and live fully in your purpose, you’re going to have to bring something to the surface. We cover everything from Brooke’s cancer diagnosis and the changes she had to make to the life she lives now and how she shows up daily for her community.
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About Brooke Thomas
At 26 years old, newly married and in the first trimester of her first pregnancy, Brooke was diagnosed with stage-three melanoma. Doctors discovered the spot at an OB-GYN appointment and told Brooke the best option was to abort the baby and have chemotherapy.
That wasn’t an option for Brooke. Instead, she opted to have the melanoma surgically removed—without anesthesia. After the procedure, she ended up with 50 stitches and an awful scar that looked like she’d been attacked by a shark.
After her daughter was born, Brooke started to deal with her diagnosis and what it meant for her future. She knew she wanted to be a healthy mom and decided to dig into health and nutrition to really understand what “being healthy” meant.
For years, she became a student of healthy living—immersed in researching cancer, health and nutrition and the connection between them. Eventually, Brooke began doing monthly wellness segments for a local NBC affiliate, and began speaking at major schools, hospitals and Fortune 500 corporations.
“My cancer diagnosis shaped my heart into a more compassionate person and taught me how to manage stress effectively. As I grew stronger in following my purpose, I stepped into leading a team of women.” – Brooke Thomas
Now, a motivational speaker, author of the Thankful 30 recipe book series, and the CEO of Live Out Loud, Brooke helps women pursue their purpose with confidence. She runs a thriving online community with regular trainings on mindset, leadership and creating authentic relationships, and hosts high-level masterminds, live events and group coaching programs.
When the Questions Bubble Up
For many of us, something happens in our life—like it did for Brooke with her cancer diagnosis—where we start to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this or that? What am I not paying attention to? What is my core purpose?”
The first pillar of wealth is all about becoming your best self and paying attention to your mental and physical well-being.
I know from Brooke’s story that she’d been scratching what she’d thought was a bug bite for months. She couldn’t see it because of where it was located on her body, but it continued to itch. After discovering that it was melanoma, she asked, “What else haven’t I been paying attention to?”
As women, we wear many hats and take on so much responsibility that it can actually be to our own detriment. We’re people pleasers and often the cog in the wheel that keeps everybody and everything going, but when we’re not taking care of ourselves or paying attention to the signs, the consequences are much bigger than we think.
“I feel like that’s what happened to me in all areas of my life. I remember thinking, ‘Hey, can we just deal with this after the baby is born?’” – Brooke Thomas
For Brooke, it was like a beach ball that she was trying to push under the water—and not just her cancer diagnosis—but parts of her childhood and relationships, too.
“God showed me in my moment of pain and darkness that there is light and that I wasn’t meant to live in fear of people or fear of anything—that the light overshadows the darkness. It took a cancer diagnosis and scratching what I thought was a bug bite, to remind me of all the things I had pretended were okay.” – Brooke Thomas
Show Up at the Highest Level
“When women show up full of love, ready to fully support one another, there’s no rivalry between them. Each has her own unique gifts. I want to be surrounded by women like that.” – Brooke Thomas
I love this and see it too in my mastermind group – Mastery + Momentum. I’m so impressed by the women in that group and all that I learn from them, even though I’m the group leader. All I can say is that to be a container for women to come together and bring things to the surface is incredible, and the level of healing that happens is unbelievable.
All the wisdom I get from my mastermind participants, makes me wonder what Brooke teaches and receives from her Elite Mastermind. One of the best bits is that each morning she decides how she’s going to show up for the day and how she wants to be showing up. Brooke doesn’t let her emotions run her calendar because when they do, they stop her from showing up the way she wants to.